Questions!?!?!

I sit from a distance sometimes and watch people in their daily routine. Eat. Converse with one another. Shop. Work. I wonder what is going through their mind at that exact moment. When I do those things my mind is bombarded by so many thoughts past,present, and future. I look at people of wealth and wonder how hard they had to work to get there or, did they have to work at all? What kind of choices did they make to get that far ahead or, what made them choose that path? I sometimes over-analyze a situation and it causes me to think “What if?” What if life were different for me at this point? What if I lived back home in California? Would life be better or more stressful? Would I be married or even a dancer? What would my life look like if it were different?

I’ve been through so much since my move from California to Washington. I was forced to grow up way too fast. Some people think I won’t understand a lot of what they’re going through. Others think that I’m well beyond my years. See, what I don’t get is that people tend to let their arrogance take hold of their situation. Most people who let this happen don’t see it as arrogance. They blame the other party by calling them “haters.” To me, a hater in modern day is basically someone who doesn’t quite understand the opposition. Therefore resulting in being “labeled” a hater. Everyone has a little bit of arrogance in them. It’s the humbleness after the fact that proves humility wins over arrogance. Arrogant people don’t always justify themselves as right but always find fault in something else. Like the old saying, “The end doesn’t justify the means.” To gain something unfairly will diminish the end result. We want to be proud of ourselves by accomplishing and gaining things fairly; then we can ‘completely’ enjoy and embrace! But is that the case anymore? Do people nowadays think that by getting to the end result of a thing is to completely ignore every bit of good judgement and to act more on feelings of insecurity and irrational behavior? Do people even think these days? We get so bombarded with feelings that we forget that maybe, just maybe, WE’RE WRONG! Can we just accept the fact that we make mistakes? What ever happened to RESPECT? It seems as if most people don’t know the meaning of that word anymore. It’s not that they can’t respect people. It’s that they just respect the thoughts and considerations of the people who haven’t been labeled “hater” yet. Why are people so quick to judge other people these days? Usually if a thing happens more than once it’s a positive shot that it’s true. If you mess up, fix it the next time. But don’t be like a dog and go back to your own vomit. Why make the same mistake twice?

I’m no perfect person and I’ve done my share of reflection on my past. I can admit when Im wrong. Sure i sometimes have the male ego everyone talks about, you know the “macho…i know what I’m talking about” mindset. Who doesn’t? But being able to admit and commit to being wrong is where truth lies. Where did that mindset go in people these days? When will people realize that it’s not about the life we live, it’s how we live it! One day everything will be all gone….EVERYTHING! We can’t take anything when we die. The only thing we’ll be able to leave behind are memories. People come and go but the memory will last forever! I’ve had different sets of friends throughout my life. Some stick around and some move on. I’d much rather have 1 person who is dedicated to wanting to better ourselves through our friendship then 10 people who only care about bettering themselves individually.

So I pose the question, what type of life do you live?

Is what you live worth it to you? Do you feel numb because life has you stuck in the same routine? Question yourself the next time you decide to act on something that requires an attention to detail. So many things get past the naked eye that you have to dig deeper in order to understand. But like most people today, nobody likes to dig that deep, too much work! Instead we live on the surface of every facet of life because it’s easier for us to comprehend everything. Why work hard for something? We live in a world where everything is a little bit easier for us now. Why walk into fast food places when we can go through drive-thru? Why mail a letter when we can email it instead? Or how about something deeper like why fix a marriage, relationship, or friendship when we can just get a new one? Divorce can happen between anything.

To conclude, we live in an easy world. Things are just easier for us. Whatever happened to work ethic? The days that nothing was handed to us because we had to work hard to get it, what happened to those days? Or better yet, What happened to teaching people that hard work pays off, and that consistency is key in everything? Has high school predisposed kids into thinking the workforce is the same way? Are we even teaching kids about work ethic anymore? Does working to get an A matter to students or are we ok with a C because it’s still passing?

These are just some questions I think about on my daily grind. I deal with young adults and teens on a daily basis and for anyone who works a job with that age range knows that it’s the hardest job anyone can have!